Let’s talk about love

February 21, 2017


Valentine’s Day, in its original form, was a religious celebration called Feast of St. Valentine. This holiday remained humble and was a celebratory day of feasts for a long time. Several stories of martyrdom have been connected to the holiday over the years. Most famously, the story of St. Valentine of Rome sees him healing the daughter of his jailer before his execution for performing illegal weddings. After this selfless act, he is said to have written a letter to her which read, “Your Valentine.”


While this act should have produced a holiday which promotes loving your fellow man, we believe Valentine’s Day has changed for the worse, ironically mutating into something selfish and hollow.


Unlike the selflessness of St. Valentine’s legendary act of universal love, his namesake holiday has widely devolved into a chance for lovers to gain points with their significant others by spending money on each other.


While this is not an inherently negative idea, companies continually bludgeon people over the head to drive home their point that these frivolous gifts are the best way to prove true love to each other. If you do not do something for your main squeeze, you are not doing it right. Notice how little you see advertisements informing consumers to think a little harder and do nice things for their both significant other as well as everyone else.


This holiday and the industry associated with it perpetuate an unhealthy standard for what “love” means. Love should be an everyday feeling whether it be romantic or platonic and should inform most of what we do. The idea should not be worshipped and strictly adhered to on a designated day.


We as a society feel like we need to make grand statements and give gifts on this day or face the consequences of losing love and dying alone. Basically, it has become an unfortunate make-or-break situation.


The enlightened, reasonable people of the world are able to recognize that his holiday has been commercialized to the point of meaningless. They recognize the holiday for what it is: a humble holiday, blown out of proportion.


Valentine’s Day also serves to make those who do happen to be single unhappy because they have not achieved what everyone else around them has. They do not get to have the “love” that Valentine’s Day has put up on a pedestal. What was originally a Christian holiday meant for all men is now a holiday inclined toward exclusion and false ideals.


This day should be something more slight and thoughtful if it must be anything at all. It should serve mainly as a love memo of sorts. Otherwise, gestures of love should be meted out throughout the year in sober, small and selfless gestures.


Though Valentine’s Day has passed, keep this in mind and try to love proportionately throughout the year. Maybe you’ll fall in love, maybe not, but we guarantee you will feel more comfortable with the concept in time.


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